Ready to Become a ‘Heart Foreplay Master’?

As someone who has devoted my entire adult life to helping individuals and couples communicate effectively, I consider my own communication skills to be stellar.  

So you can imagine my surprise and irritation when my partner would retreat instead of engage when I peppered him with questions like…

How are you feeling about…? 

When will you be ready to talk about…?

Tell me more about…

I can vividly remember sitting at my dad’s kitchen table the day we had “the talk”.

“Boys will try to pressure you to have sex, but don’t do it. No one wants to marry a girl who fools around”.

That was the extent of my birds and bees talk. The idea that my sexuality was mine and that I could do whatever I wanted with it was completely foreign to him. To my father my sexuality was something to be controlled in accordance with what society deemed respectable behavior for an unmarried woman.